Uses of stage two: Anxiety.
Anxiety is the mix of 2 emotions, fear and worry, that coexist in the body.
This is the stage of semi-conscious to conscious danger. Danger is an issue that is treated seriously by everyone. It needs to be addressed in some way but we address the danger requires us to have information about the danger. So the person placed in danger will become and remain highly perceptive and that means the discriminative/ thinking part of the brain is turned to low or even turned off. At the same time they will be puzzled as to what danger there is since it can be felt (i.e., fear in the body) but not perceived. Hence the person will be caught up in two opposing quests as far as the body are concerned, which of course includes the brain.
Firstly they will continue to try and discern the nature of the danger because there is an urgent need to gain information to determine what to do. Being puzzled on the other hand they will need to make effort towards thinking through the problem to find a resolution so the body will try to return the thinking part of the brain; So without enough information though they are caught in a bind. There is fear, which amongst other things sends signals to the heart to go fast and then there is rumination that turns into circular thinking or worry. For thinking the brain needs to turn back on the executive function and make available a good fuel supply for the brain. This means signals go to the heart to slow down and bring the body to rest so that the brain is not competing with the musculature for fuel materials. This brings the heart into conflict and the more serious the anxiety the greater the conflict for the heart. I will discuss this in depth later as it is needed to explain other conditions such as some forms of heart disease. However I want to stress here that the matter of anxiety, though treated very trivially by doctors, almost as a side issue, it is in fact a critically important one. It can in itself become life threatening and this is perceived by the victim.
Anxiety, owing to the existence of both fear and worry, draws the person and holds them in a quest for discovery and resolution. Hence we could say they become “caught up in themselves” or engrossed in their own problem. This causes a number of problems for other people around them and most especially young children and infants. The reason is that the person’s attention is held captive so they lose the mental connection with the child in their care so the bond with the child is weakened. This is a distressing situation for the child. They also of course miss vital information from both their physical and interpersonal environments. This situation can thus be used to manipulate and control the person and others in their care, such as children.
And again here we have varying degrees of anxiety and each can be used for a different type of cheat or what evil people call procedures.
How anxiety is used to manufacture RAPPORT WITH A STRANGER.
A toxic spouse is going to want another toxic person in their family life, particularly if there are children involved. The person may be needed to assist their stay-at-home spouse or a working spouse /partner. The choice of that toxic person will need to be made by the non-toxic spouse. That way if things go wrong they can parcel all responsibility and/or blame on their non-toxic partner. But there is another reason too. When people make a choice, especially after careful consideration, they do not like to think that they have made a bad decision. This is not arrogance as many people believe. It is the very same reason why people hate to think that they could be vulnerable to others around them and either not see something or be tricked. There is strong resistance to these ideas and it is worth saying something here about it here. Why do we do this, because when you consider it logically it is irrational. The problem is that we don’t live in the nice world that we like to believe we live in but one that is awash with danger owing to an ever increasing number of toxic and greedy people. There are many people in the world that are, despite appearances, criminals. So to remain safe and have peace of mind a lot of people hold to the belief that they can discern the danger and not be tricked and hence keep themselves safe. It is really a head in the sand approach. This idea though is pushed by many different sectors of the society, all with their own agendas.
This belief of “I will always see the trick and I will always be able to stay safe” is very foolish thinking. But there is also a basis for it. Consider if a physical danger is imminent you will go and investigate it and then consider what to do. And in a physical danger you have the benefit of the five senses. If the danger is posed in the interpersonal environment, then, with this belief active, you will not investigate. You will treat the appearances as valid. A cheat is very cunningly put together and aims to use the very subtlest aspects of consciousness. It is hard even with effort to discern sometimes. To consider that you’ll always see it and don’t worry means you will fall in the trap. Ironically enough, only when you consider that you could be tricked, will you remain vigilant. Only when you are wary enough will you not fall into the trap or at least arrest it early enough as to minimize any harm or disadvantage.
I suspect that the reason people choose to hold this belief has to do with the use of ideas and what we hold in mind has potency. The problem is that if you hold a belief that you could be tricked then you are holding an idea that may lead to you being tricked because it becomes an affirmation. But what people don’t appreciate is that the negative can lead to the same affirmation. I can’t be tricked can have a very different meaning with a little pause between the words “can’t” and “be”. So the toxic person looking to do you harm will present you with the idea of “I can’t.. be tricked”. It is very subtle but because the words are the same the unsuspecting person will accept what is presented in mind and that then becomes an affirmation of “I can be tricked”. So rather than hold a belief, which can be used against you, you can go down the path of reason. People do get tricked sometimes. Possibly everyone, including the most cunning, get tricked sometimes. So I will be vigil and wary to stay safe. There is no belief here. There is observation of the world and there is a directive stated in the positive to assist you in remaining safe. And the wording can’t be used against you as they stand. You do away with the belief that puts you off guard and which can be used against you.
In this example how is anxiety used to get a non-toxic spouse to make a decision favorable to the toxic spouse? And indeed make a decision about a stranger that is critical as for instance the selection of a baby-sitter. Can the mother be so badly influenced as to choose a toxic baby-sitter to mind her child for many hours every day while she is at work?
First the woman is made anxious with every baby-sitter she interviews and whom her spouse doesn’t want. She can be made anxious with a gun-carrying individual outside who has been given a key to her house. If he really wants to “stress her out” he may, in addition also employ a pedophile to accompany the GCI. This creates a “child issue”, which after all is what employing a baby-sitter is all about. Thus the woman will either have a danger problem for herself, which will make her anxious and which will affect her child, or she may face two problems at once. But in either case a mother stresses and hence unable to be mentally attentive or bonded with her child will distress the child.
What happens is she is too involved in the danger issues to really be able to pay enough attention to the baby-sitters she is interviewing so she will not be able to make a correct assessment of her; Added to that the mother will find that her anxiety or “bad feeling” increases with the arrival of each baby-sitter and decreases when she is gone. This is easily done because criminal intent is the key element. All they need to do is start talking about maybe doing something while a baby-sitter is in the house and talk about anything else when she leaves.
For the mother, the GCI and the pedophile and all of their talk, is subconscious. She may see them but as they just look like strangers in the street talking to each other and not acting strange or attracting attention, she can’t say anything about them. So she is actually not missing the key piece to the puzzle. She has it alright but its significance is outside her conscious perception.
Just before the husband’s choice of baby-sitter arrives at the house she will most probably ring the husband and tell him she’s almost there. He will then call off the criminals from outside so they leave before the baby-sitter enters the house. The mother starts to relax so when she is interviewing the baby-sitter she feels relief and she feels good.
Logically she attributes her good feeling with the baby-sitter but of course it is a grave mistake. Similarly he can actually tell her the truth, in code of course and she will understand it as she believes is logical. So for instance he may say “I got faith in your judgment”, which she may reasonably take to mean he has faith in her judgment, but in actual fact he means he put faith in her judgment. There are many examples, and this is one of them, where you will see that logic can be manufactured or used in a cut and paste fashion. Using reason or logic is part and parcel of the “normal approach” that toxic people use to deal with humane people and cheat them, while they are unsuspecting of the foul game play.
How anxiety is used to manufacture TRUST.
As soon as the toxic baby-sitter is employed the next move that would be made is to make the non-toxic mother trust her. This is again easily achieved using the GCI and the pedophile. Here we see how information is vital to successful foul game play. As soon as the mother has an important engagement first thing when she is due to arrive at work, this cheat can be played.
And here timing is all important. They want the mother to have enough time to get to her engagement.. but only just enough! Thus the baby-sitter will be late arriving on that day. While the mother is waiting and as time gets closer to her much needed departure she will be anxious anyway, how ever toxic people leave nothing to chance. They will have their “friends” the GCI and the pedophile arrive and park outside, maybe even sit in the park and have a beer. The mother will find it harder this time because her mind is filled with anticipation about getting to work on time. Hence it is very easy to mistake the anxiety that is really pathological stress and the normal stress of her wanting to get going but having to wait for someone else to arrive.
The baby-sitter arrives in the nick of time and spins her a story about heavy traffic, left her car parked somewhere else and caught an express train so she could get there on time and so on. In other words she put herself out a long way in consideration of her employer. At any other time this might be overlooked but at a time when there is an urgency to get to work on time this is impressive. If we add to that the pedophile is gone, then the “child issue”, which is not just about a baby-sitter’s arrival to look after her child, is resolved. This will make her anxiety vanish. They may keep the CGI there and down grade the criminal intent so that the mother remains in a high state of excitation. With the idea presented by the chief offender, her husband, of “oh wonderful she’s here”, this can generate a very good feeling and again it is mistaken. She wrongly attributes it to the arrival of the baby-sitter thus allowing her to arrive at work on time but this is not the only reason and indeed not even the primary reason. Remarkably her “good feeling” is really low grade fear.. treachery.
How anxiety is used to manufacture DEPENDENCY.
Toxic people develop relationships for a purpose. They never relate for the joy of relating. One reason, and a very common one is to have “a victim on tap” and of course at the same time that victim will serve them. To get all this they need the other person dependent.
While he is away at work or with his mates she will be “stressed out at home” and again this is achieved by the use of a GCI and if he wants to trouble her more, he may again use a pedophile for the purpose as well. A pedophile of course may double up as a GCI in some cases but usually different criminals have different effects.
When he is about to go home then the issues are downgraded significantly until the perception of danger is gone and she will only be aware of bodily excitation that feels good. Thus when he arrives home the baby / children will again be happy and family life resumes. She is grateful to him for “being there for her” because she believes “she could never do this alone”. In actual fact she would be better off alone. This way she will overlook any difficult behavior he may display and be more “flexible”. She will go along with what he want.
Effect on the children.
Part of the stress that the woman feels is also due to what she sees as unruly children. “They listen to him but they won’t listen to me” or “they are reasonably well behaved when his home but they are extremely difficult when I’m alone with them” are common complaints of women with young children. Certainly children will vary but where there is a marked difference of this sort it is a sign of trouble.
Doesn’t he care that he will adversely affect his children?
This is a big subject and I will address it later. Toxic people aim to get as many of their children to become toxic and the methods are often brutal. At the very least if you consider that to become toxic is to be deprived forever the rest state and the pleasure that is attained from it. It bars the person permanently from being able to experience bliss, the bliss of being. This is a gross violation. It is really the worse form of violence one can inflict on a child.
If both parents are toxic then they will aim to adversely affect every child they have. If the other spouse is non-toxic and they are not “manageable” enough to stay out of the road, then there are plenty of cases were they are “disposed of” to make the way clear to aggressively training the children in being toxic. Cancer is a common form of “disposal” and it is done while the children are very young. Often at ages of two to five but sometimes even younger. Toxic people are not obvious as criminals but some do display bad behavior. If they have lost a parent while they are very young, it is often put down to the trauma of losing their mother or father, when actually it has nothing to do with this loss.
How anxiety is used to manage a spouse/ partner’s friendships.
Toxic people, whether married or partnered to a toxic or non-toxic person will always want to have the over-riding say on who their partner can and cannot have as friends or even friendships with their relatives. Mostly it is done to keep away people who may suspect foul play. Thus they will move to disrupt friendships and even destroy friendships altogether. A non-toxic partner can be isolated in this way because they end up with no non-toxic friends and at the same time surrounded by toxic people who only appear as friends.
This time a convenient time is chosen, such as a dinner party when the “undesirable” friend has been invited. They again employ GCIs to hang around outside. These can be one or two or they may be a group. Typically an adult may be present, who is the GCI and they will have toxic children and teenagers with them as a cover. Thus they may appear to be family and friends playing on the street or a nearby park with the adult seemingly keeping an eye on them. They will have been given a key to the house. However the chief offender, who is of course present in the house, can also open the door to them. So the potential for a crime is again held in intent. And they can present ideas that will trouble just the one person that they want to trouble. There is no danger issue for anyone else so no one else will be affected. After one or two bad episodes the friend will be put off.
The friend that has been “pushed away” can also be said to have been “purchased”. In reality this is only a euphemistic way of saying ‘can be exploited in the future’. One reason would be to express opposition and hence undermine the victim when the friend would never have done that in the first place. What has happened is the friend /relative has “exchanged” peace of mind for the relationship. What they don’t know though is that they and their friend have not simply been robbed of their friendship. An association has been forged in the friend’s mind between anxiety or what is commonly called “a bad feeling” and their former friend. Thus at any future time, should it be “necessary”, this friend can be used to undermine the former friend and not even know what is happening.
So for instance they can be drawn into a denigrating conversation about their former friend. If they do not want to engage in it, then they are given “a treatment”, which means they are caused to be anxious again. It is cunningly done, close enough to the event or mention of the former friend to associate them subconsciously but not close enough to consciously make the connection. Hence when they again are drawn into a denigating or belittling conversation about their former friend, they may be more willing to engage in it, again for the sake of peace of mind or not getting a bad feeling. This sort of conversation will be experienced insightfully by the former friend, it the relational entanglement was strong enough. As a result the person can be made to feel sad and “down” about belittling and even not be conscious that their former friend is involved. The purpose can vary but causing depression is one reason. If the former friend’s loss was important to them and thus the loss of support together with an undermining would be hurtful.
I have used domestic examples here but anxiety is used in all areas. “Managing employees” for any number of reasons can be done using anxiety and of course as it is claimed to be a mental illness or medical condition depending on the form it takes, the offending boss can take a step back from his or her “handiwork”. The employee is blamed because after all aren’t they the ones with anxiety? And then there is the claim that a person needs to “take reponsibility” for the anxiety they feel or the medical condition that might arise. This would be confirm by a psychiatrist, if one was brought into the workplace. This is a common occurrence in the workplace these days. Indeed psychiatrists that make assessments of employees are not “outsiders”. One of their own, in a local newspaper called such psychiatrists “attack dogs”. There are many psychiatrists that are part of corrupt systems, whether in the public service or the private sector. And they are handsomely rewarded for their “cooperation”.
The range of anxiety states can be best seen, firstly with the creation of “mental illness”, which of course is really nothing other than serious harassment and/or terrorization of an individual by a toxic mob. There is no mental illness. The other way to see it is by examining the medical conditions that can be created. The most striking examples is the creation of allergic reactions from mild, to moderate to severe. I will discuss these later, possibly in another book.
Next I will discuss some of the uses of panic attacks.